Category: Personal Development

Attending to the body in psychotherapy

  So often we live in our heads: thinking, planning, working things out, remembering, worrying, fearing. There can be a cacophony of voices up there vying for our attention and creating a chaotic backdrop to our day-to-day life. Sometimes this turns into full-on battles: we tell ourselves one thing, then the opposite thought bites back. …

The Therapeutic Relationship: How Can It Help?

Relational Beings Whatever the circumstance, we are conceived through the joining of two people and of two cells. Forming a relationship with our caregiver when we’re a baby, and then extending this first relationship to include other significant people in our lives, we can safely say that we are “formed in the crucible of relationship.”[1] …

Strategies for dealing with Anger

Introduction: It is next to impossible to live our daily lives without feeling some anger. It could be the frustration of realising you’ve left the umbrella at home and it’s about to pour or the annoyance of arriving home to realise your housemate or partner has left the bin open all day again and the …

We are creatures of basic needs

It’s amazing how many adults operate from schedules that deny them their most basic, primal needs, creating additional stress on top of life’s normal challenges. While we may fancy ourselves as sophisticated beings, not everyone has developed the skills to recognise when they’re tired or hungry, for example, which makes it harder to actually meet …

Being your own ‘kind-but-firm’ parent

How do we differentiate self-love from self-indulgence? How can we break away from self-sabotage? It’s not so much what you do for yourself, as how you do it. Pushing yourself to do lots of exercise, juicing, meditation, journaling, etc. in a harsh or rigid way is counter-productive. Likewise, staying up late on a Monday night to watch 10 episodes …

Connecting Inwards, to Know your True Self

We spend our days stimulated and bombarded with outside information, activities, pursuits, constant communication… So what actually happens when you make some time and space to be alone with yourself, to just sit and be as you are, and connect inwards, away from all the distractions? Without flicking through Instagram posts. Without Netflix on in …

Counselling the Dyslexic, A Personal Experience

  This article is an overview of the research I’ve done into Dyslexia, how it impacts the individual in childhood, adolescence and adulthood. My own personal experience of dyslexia and what counsellors and psychotherapists should be aware of when dyslexia enters the therapy room. I was diagnosed with dyslexia in the early 1980’s. I was …

Difficulties in Mother-Daughter Relationships

What are some typical reasons mother and daughter don’t get along? Why can this relationship prove particularly difficult for some? Typical reasons mother and daughter don’t get along: Letting go of the parent-child role (Separation): Tensions can arise when the daughter becomes an adult. From the mother’s perspective, the transition may be difficult because it …