Category: Personal Development

How to survive Christmas with a difficult family.

(Journalist – Patrick Kelleher, Contributor – Deirdre Madden) Advice and ideas on how to make it through the festivities when it’s not a season of goodwill It is dubbed the most wonderful time of the year – but not for everybody. Christmas can be a time of joy and happiness for many, but what about …

The Gut-Brain Connection: The relationship to emotions and managing stress

Introduction The gut and the brain: two separate entities yet intimately connected. The gut is also referred to as the “second brain”. It is an organ system which comprises of the mouth, esophagus, stomach and intestines. It plays a major role, not only in our digestive health, but in the wellness of the entire body. …

Attending to the body in psychotherapy

  So often we live in our heads: thinking, planning, working things out, remembering, worrying, fearing. There can be a cacophony of voices up there vying for our attention and creating a chaotic backdrop to our day-to-day life. Sometimes this turns into full-on battles: we tell ourselves one thing, then the opposite thought bites back. …

The Therapeutic Relationship: How Can It Help?

Relational Beings Whatever the circumstance, we are conceived through the joining of two people and of two cells. Forming a relationship with our caregiver when we’re a baby, and then extending this first relationship to include other significant people in our lives, we can safely say that we are “formed in the crucible of relationship.”[1] …

Strategies for dealing with Anger

Introduction: It is next to impossible to live our daily lives without feeling some anger. It could be the frustration of realising you’ve left the umbrella at home and it’s about to pour or the annoyance of arriving home to realise your housemate or partner has left the bin open all day again and the …

We are creatures of basic needs

It’s amazing how many adults operate from schedules that deny them their most basic, primal needs, creating additional stress on top of life’s normal challenges. While we may fancy ourselves as sophisticated beings, not everyone has developed the skills to recognise when they’re tired or hungry, for example, which makes it harder to actually meet …

Being your own ‘kind-but-firm’ parent

How do we differentiate self-love from self-indulgence? How can we break away from self-sabotage? It’s not so much what you do for yourself, as how you do it. Pushing yourself to do lots of exercise, juicing, meditation, journaling, etc. in a harsh or rigid way is counter-productive. Likewise, staying up late on a Monday night to watch 10 episodes …