Category: Low Self-esteem

The Therapeutic Relationship: How Can It Help?

Relational Beings Whatever the circumstance, we are conceived through the joining of two people and of two cells. Forming a relationship with our caregiver when we’re a baby, and then extending this first relationship to include other significant people in our lives, we can safely say that we are “formed in the crucible of relationship.”[1] …

Counselling the Dyslexic, A Personal Experience

  This article is an overview of the research I’ve done into Dyslexia, how it impacts the individual in childhood, adolescence and adulthood. My own personal experience of dyslexia and what counsellors and psychotherapists should be aware of when dyslexia enters the therapy room. I was diagnosed with dyslexia in the early 1980’s. I was …

Difficulties in Mother-Daughter Relationships

What are some typical reasons mother and daughter don’t get along? Why can this relationship prove particularly difficult for some? Typical reasons mother and daughter don’t get along: Letting go of the parent-child role (Separation): Tensions can arise when the daughter becomes an adult. From the mother’s perspective, the transition may be difficult because it …

I’m So Angry Right Now, I Just Get So Angry.

  “Men in rage strike those that wish them the best” (William Shakespeare, Othello, Act 2. Scene 3). Anger is a tricky thing to deal with because often a person can feel justified in their feelings of anger, that they are protecting themselves or others around them from inappropriate or unreasonable behavior by another person. …

Rejected and Broken in Love

  The following article comes from my own experience of working around the experience of rejection, I have used fictional characters as examples of typical human experiences seen by me over the years. The most unbearable pain is that of being rejected, especially by the breakup of a relationship, the pain can be tangible and …

Depression: A Cognitive Behavioural Approach

What’s the theory behind CBT? CBT is based on the idea that the way we think about situations can affect the way we feel and behave.  For example, if you interpret a situation negatively then you might experience negative emotions as a result, and those bad feelings might then lead you to behave in a …

Anxiety and Panic Attacks

Anxieties can cause incredible suffering, especially in combination with panic attacks. Much of this suffering goes silent and remains invisible to one’s social environment. Anxieties and panic attacks can lead to the inability to leave the house and interfere with almost every sphere of life, professional, social, and one’s relationships. When anxiety reaches into all …

The Gender Spectrum

Gender versus Sex For many people the terms ‘gender’ and ‘sex’ are used interchangeably, however the concepts of sex and gender are not quite that straightforward.  Sex is a biological term whereas gender is a psychological and cultural expression.  Modern society views sex and gender in binary terms, and the majority of people are sexed …

Separation Anxiety

Research on Separation Anxiety Empirical research shows that there is a strong causal relationship between an individual’s experience with his parents and how he attaches to and separates from others.  A child’s relationship with his parents or primary caregivers also affects his later capacity to make affectional bonds. John Bowlby’s ‘Attachment Theory’, emphasizes that the …