Category: Family

The Therapeutic Relationship: How Can It Help?

Relational Beings Whatever the circumstance, we are conceived through the joining of two people and of two cells. Forming a relationship with our caregiver when we’re a baby, and then extending this first relationship to include other significant people in our lives, we can safely say that we are “formed in the crucible of relationship.”[1] …

Difficulties in Mother-Daughter Relationships

What are some typical reasons mother and daughter don’t get along? Why can this relationship prove particularly difficult for some? Typical reasons mother and daughter don’t get along: Letting go of the parent-child role (Separation): Tensions can arise when the daughter becomes an adult. From the mother’s perspective, the transition may be difficult because it …

Unhealthy Relationships: Types and Symptoms

  A relationship is where two or more people or groups are connected and behave towards each other. Human beings are complex. Therefore, relationships are complex. When we are in healthy relationship with another or a group, there is a feeling of reciprocity and both parties get their needs met. Relationships can be a source …

What is Family Dysfunction and How Can Change Occur

Families essentially operate as systems or organisms. A system is a collection of items which are interdependent and organised for a common purpose. For example, in car production, the product moves from station to station along an assembly line, with different workers performing various production tasks along the way. If a particular station is defective …

The challenges of returning home to Ireland

For many Irish people living abroad Christmas is a great milestone. Tickets are booked well in advance to avoid soaring prices. The build-up involves excitement, the prospects of meeting family, of where we will go, who we will see. Once we have reached our destination, we are rarely disappointed, friends, family, festivities, warmth and merrymaking …

Who am I?

Mother, Father, sister, brother, the responsible one, the fixer, the rescuer, the comedian, the negotiator, the caretaker, the addict, the child. Who are you? We all have a place in our family of origin but that may not necessarily be who we are, to our family & friends or even work colleagues. We are very …

Do Men and Women Grieve Differently? How Gender Impacts Loss

Grief Grief is a natural response that arises from losses that we encounter in life.  Many people think of grief as something that is linked to death.  Although death is the ultimate loss, we do encounter other losses that trigger grief such as loss of a job, a relationship, moving house/moving to a new area, …

When Baby Doesn’t Come

The Loss of a Baby in Pregnancy When a pregnancy terminates early without the birth of a baby there are strong feelings which “go to ground” in our unconscious.  Some parents-to-be are able to talk to others at that time and then there are those for whom it must be kept secret. However, even for …