Category: Bereavement & Grief

When grief becomes complicated

Explaining Complicated Grief Grief, even acute grief, is a natural response to loss and is different for everyone.  How we grieve largely depends on the nature of the loss, our personality, prior experiences of loss, beliefs, gender socialization and cultural norms and so on. For most people, grief intensity is lower after six months.  It …

Difficulties in Mother-Daughter Relationships

What are some typical reasons mother and daughter don’t get along? Why can this relationship prove particularly difficult for some? Typical reasons mother and daughter don’t get along: Letting go of the parent-child role (Separation): Tensions can arise when the daughter becomes an adult. From the mother’s perspective, the transition may be difficult because it …

Miscarriage. A silent loss.

Early miscarriage is the most common obstetric complication. One in four women are said to experience miscarriage at some point of their reproductive lives. In recent years, research has highlighted that following a miscarriage many couples go through painful loss and a particularly complex grieving process. Grief is a natural and healthy reaction to loss. …

Understanding Trauma

Trauma, or the body’s loss of its natural ability to cope, is something that is being experienced by people ever more increasingly these days.  Traumatic responses manifest in our bodies when we experience a situation that overwhelms us in such a way that our normal habitual resilience and capacity to cope seem to suddenly desert …

Rejected and Broken in Love

  The following article comes from my own experience of working around the experience of rejection, I have used fictional characters as examples of typical human experiences seen by me over the years. The most unbearable pain is that of being rejected, especially by the breakup of a relationship, the pain can be tangible and …

Do Men and Women Grieve Differently? How Gender Impacts Loss

Grief Grief is a natural response that arises from losses that we encounter in life.  Many people think of grief as something that is linked to death.  Although death is the ultimate loss, we do encounter other losses that trigger grief such as loss of a job, a relationship, moving house/moving to a new area, …

Trauma

Trauma A trauma is an experience of severe damage to the psyche caused by a distressing event. It usually involves gross violations of the values and expectations of an individual and leads to a state of disconnect from one’s thoughts and emotions.  It shatters core believes about how the world works and the individual’s place …

Depression and Psychotherapy

Depression Depression usually means feeling low and lacking motivation and energy to do anything enjoyable, but sometimes it may predominantly show in disturbed sleep, a lack of appetite and other diffuse bodily symptoms. Individuals on the outside withdraw from social life, while on the inside they often develop a sense of alienation from their sense …

When Baby Doesn’t Come

The Loss of a Baby in Pregnancy When a pregnancy terminates early without the birth of a baby there are strong feelings which “go to ground” in our unconscious.  Some parents-to-be are able to talk to others at that time and then there are those for whom it must be kept secret. However, even for …