As children, our coping skills, mental abilities, emotional stability and security are aspects of our self which are developed and nurtured through our families, relationships & friendships. The more support and positive resources available to us at the time, help us grow and develop into well-functioning children and later adults.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t always happen in that manner. As children, we can’t make sense of what we’re experience and the emotional toll of that. Our childhood experiences, both positive and negative, become “our normal”. As a result, we develop and adapt, “as normal” in response to our experiences. It is often only later in life when :
our coping skills no longer prove to be effective in the same way as before;
our mental abilities have increased through our reasoning, decision making skills etc. yet we don’t get our desired outcomes from the choices we make.;
we experience relationship difficulties that leave us feeling emotionally stuck or ill-equipped to deal with, that we struggle with our lives.
Counselling is an opportunity , in a safe, supportive, protected space to examine and work through, what may be unresolved for us, up to that point in our life. By working with a counsellor, naming for ourselves & talking about any childhood traumas or distresses allows us to resolve such issues which were causing us to come “unglued” as adults in our lives today, enabling us to move forward in our lives.
